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The Required New Years Post

I realize this is a bit late, but I’m usually late with everything… and I’m ok with it! ūüôā

I’m not the type of person who resolves to change¬†who I am¬†but I like to make goals for my upcoming year. If I don’t achieve the goals, I’m ok with it, but at least if gives me something to strive for and focus on throughout the year. I’ve also learned to keep the list simple if I plan to really work on it. Plus, I can always add something at any time of the year.

So here are my goals for this year so far:

  • Get As in my final two classes this year and graduate in May!
  • Run:
    • a¬†5k
    • a¬†9k (it’s a specific race… I know it’s an odd number)
    • and a¬†10k
  • Celebrate¬†my 10 year anniversary with my super awesome boyfriend¬†
  • Spend more time with friends (I really should make this more concrete so it feels like an action item and less like a hope… but I’m not quite sure how)

I have this general (most likely crazy) belief that Christmas cards are like a friendship grade at the end of the year.

This is what I call my “wall of popularity:”

These are the Christmas cards I received this year hanging up in my living room… and I’ll probably leave them up until February because they make me happy and they don’t take up any space.

I believe that if you don’t check in with your friends, and you don’t go to their events (birthday parties, weddings, fundraisers, what have you), and you don’t send them things like Christmas cards or birthday wishes or whatever, they will stop sending you Christmas cards which equates to them stopping thinking about you (at least as anything more than just a Facebook friend). Of course your best friends will still love you and not everyone sends cards, but your outer ring of friends will start to drop off.

And the more rings you lose, the fewer friends you have… and I don’t want to be friendless by 50!

Anyway, my popularity wall got smaller this year. I’m certain it’s because of 2 things:

  1. My holiday cards were so late
  2. I probably didn’t make enough time for some people this year

I need to do better next year! (aka this year, 2012)

So those are my goals. What are yours?

Ode to Jon

Last week was a rough week.

My younger brother (not named Jon) is one of those kind of guys who has always been a part of a tight-knit group of friends. These guys have been friends since like middle school.¬†On Wednesday night, one of these guys, Jon, died of what we’re assuming is a heart attack while playing basketball with one of the other guys. He was 27 years¬†old.

Besides his age, I find this incredibly sad because:

  • He had just moved in with his girlfriend (I can’t even imagine how she feels right now)
  • He had¬†recently quit smoking
  • He had quit drinking excessively
  • It’s almost Christmas time
  • He was a really great guy
  • One of their friends returned from Iraq 4 days too late… he got home on Sunday

Jon was the first person I know, around my age, to die. Of course there were people in high school who took their own lives or made poor decisions and had accidents – although it was pretty rare in my high school – but he is the first person to die of natural causes. It was one of those moments that made me question reality.

I was especially concerned about my brother. He and Jon used to be roommates, they were close. I realized something yesterday though. The benefit of being in such a tight-knit group is that he has a very strong support system. He also has people he can reminisce with. My brother is a severe homebody, but he’s always had the kind of place where everyone is welcome to just show up anytime… and they do. He has someone besides himself in his livingroom almost every night. It’s helpful¬†to know that the whole group is sitting around his livingroom telling nice stories about Jon. It sucks that they all have to miss him, but I’m glad they don’t have to do it alone.

Jon¬†was a funny guy and I’m glad he won’t be forgotten. But it was far, far too soon.

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